Recognizing an Unhealthy Relationship

Recently one of our own discussed her personal experiences with Domestic Violence and unhealthy relationships.  Unfortunately, unhealthy relationships and dating violence is something that as health professionals we must speak with young people about because it is a fact that it is happening.  The 2013 National Youth Risk Behavior Survey found that approximately 1 in 10 high school students reported physical victimization and 1 in 10 reported sexual victimization from a dating partner in the 12 months before they were surveyed.[1]  Additionally, it is estimated that 33% (or 1 in 3) of adolescents in America are victims of sexual, physical, verbal or emotional dating abuse.[2]

Maybe It’s Happening But Not To Me…

Do you know how to spot an unhealthy relationship? A lot of us don’t know the signs to look for to identify an unhealthy relationship.  To help us, One Love Foundation, a foundation dedicated to ensuring everyone understands the difference between a healthy and unhealthy relationship, created short videos called couplets defining the difference between a good relationship and an unhealthy one.  As you watch these videos which are included below, think about your current or previous relationships or relationships your friends are in.  If three or more of these warning signs appeared in one of those relationships, that’s an unhealthy relationship.  In an unhealthy relationship?  Don’t be afraid to talk to your trusted adult about this and learn ways to let your partner know that #thatsnotlove.

To learn more about the One Love Foundation, their couplets and their #thatsnotlove campaign, visit

Do you have wisdom you can share on this?  Please post about it on social media and tag us.  Use #hrhniMAD and #thatsnotlove. You can also share your story with us or ask advice using our Contact Us page or by leaving a comment below. 

[1] Vagi, K.J., Olsen, E.O., Basile, K.C., & Vivolo-Kantor, A.M. (2015).  Teen dating violence (physical and sexual) among US high school students: Findings from the 2013 National Youth Risk Behavior Survey.  JAMA Pediatrics, 169, 474-482.

[2] The NO MORE Project. “Dating Abuse Statistics.” Accessed April 22, 2014.









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